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Ray J is going viral again, but this time it’s for a more intimate and vulnerable reason.
In a raw, revealing episode of the Drop the Lo podcast, the R&B singer and reality star opened up about the emotional strain in his relationship with his sister, Brandy, and the complicated dynamic within his famous family.
“I love my sister, but I’m an embarrassment to them,” Ray J admitted, getting visibly vulnerable. When asked if he felt unaccepted, he doubled down: “I never wanted to be accepted. I just feel like I’m an embarrassment.”
He made it clear that some of the pressure to change who he is doesn’t necessarily come from Brandy directly — but it still hits close to home. “You don’t want me to be me… you want me to be something else,” he said, possibly referring to other family members. “But I’m superseding everything y’all are doing.”
Ray’s name has been tied to viral moments for years — from tech hustles and Verzuz antics to reality show meltdowns — but one of his more recent episodes apparently rubbed his sister the wrong way. Back in April, Ray J appeared on Kai Cenat’s stream, begging for an invite to the now-infamous “sleepover” livestream. The chaotic energy lit up the internet, but Brandy wasn’t feeling it. She texted him afterward, writing: “Come on, Ray? What’s going on with you? You’re so much better than this!!”
Ray J then screenshotted the text and posted it on IG with a caption that said it all:
“My sister hates who I am! And all I’m doing is being myself! I don’t know how to be better than who I am. I tried. But I get depressed trying to change when I don’t have a wife anymore and I have NO STABILITY!! I’m sorry to my sister for who I am. And my mom. – I don’t give a F about nobody else’s feelings — but when it’s my family it makes me feel alone.”
For someone known for keeping it flashy, Ray J’s confessional moment was anything but. Behind the slick shades and wild headlines is a man wrestling with personal identity, mental health, and the weight of being that sibling in a legacy family.
